Is Annulment fair in the Philippines?

 


      Big Star Music Award.

I read in the daily Newspaper, I read it in Internet Social networking, I saw it on TV, I heard it from the Radio station, I heard it from my Officemates and friends about the popular big star in the film industries that her Marriage is officially Annulled now to her husband. The popular basketball player in PBA also annulled now to his Wife. Another big star is annulled now to his/her 1st, 2nd, 3rd wives/husband again. The rich politicians is annulled, the rich businessman is annulled on his/her marriage. Either you are a big star, politician, rich businessman, or from a rich family roots Annulment is just that simple for them to throw their Marriage away. 

          
 Nice Fancy Car

        

       
    The Mansion

Seems like it is simple for these high powered Folks to purchase expensive stuff like, condominiums, expensive Mercedes Benz, expensive mansions, name it baby and I will give it to you, everything just name it!
Seems like for them Marriage is a Contract to their Employer, that once it is expired they can find easily another new employer when they don’t like the rules on it. Or maybe there will be more good benefits in the other Employer than their earlier Employer, or they just wanted a change. As easy as those are also vanished in just a blink of an eye! Annulment is very easy for them in order to break the promised of the “till death do us part.”

The reasons are, it’s because as they said they betrayed me, become unfaithful, lied to me, and more crap, to say no more Love to me. And because of this I would like to pursue an annulment right this minute.



Assuming this Photo is Me and Yen-Yen

 This morning I talked to my friend Yen-Yen. I just wonder I haven’t seen her Father go home. She said her father is working abroad. But it wonders me why her father has another Child from outside and her Mother has another Man living with her? I just wonder! It’s not my business though! But it made me wonder. My friend told me that her Parents are separated long time ago. I said okay! That’s why both of them had a new Family now? My friend responded “Yes but not really”. Now I’m confused wait a minute my friend. Explain to me slowly I’m kind of lost now; my brain is not catching it up. Your parents are long time ago separated and each had their new Lovers. But you said their not really separated! What do you mean?
 

Yen-Yen stated that her Parents are long separated by Bed, by their House, in short Divorce or Annulment. By her Parents thoughts only and beliefs! But if we talked about Divorce or Annulment is a legal way, well it’s not like that. I found out why?  

In Annulment your talking big bucks!

It’s because it’s expensive for Yen-Yen’s Parents to file the Annulment papers and there will be tons of documentation to produced, and most especially time and efforts are also contributing on it.

Now another thing that baffled me was, why is this big star, rich, and famous folks get this Annulment approval straight away?

In less than a year why their each Marriage became rejected, void right away?

 What are the procedures that this famous folks does in order to attain the Marriage null and void?

As what I’m aware of, the reason of this Famous folks wanted an Annulment to their partners are also identical to my friend Yen-Yen’s parents. So why Yen-Yen parents are having dilemma on getting this legal Annulment like this Rich folks does?

What are the differences for this?

I feel sorry for what my friend feelings and to her siblings. Yen-Yen told me that she already accepted the fact that her parents are long broke-up. But the center of her thoughts are the optimistically that hopefully her parents established this legal way of separation or annulment, so her both parents can Married to their new partner or shall I say new Love to their each heart. And most essential is to grant the family name of Yen-Yen’s Half-sister the Daughter of her Father from the second partner.

In USA United States of America. Divorce is open to everybody from Rich to Poor, Famous or not. There is no ideal to meet up just to reach the word Divorce either you are Rich or Poor. Actually it doesn’t matter. It’s just become tougher when there are Children or Kids involved on it, or properties and wealth that needs to be divided, which, what, who belongs to, HOY! But once it settled everything, then no reason to take the case so long.

Why the Philippines can’t do the same thing to make it easier for everybody especially to the Poor community like Yen-Yen’s Parents.   Opps ahh ohhh! I can see the smoke on your nose right now! You’re saying Filipinos are not like Americans! Right? That whenever the Americans undergoing to Divorce, is very easy for them to summarize and get what they wanted right away, and then divorce paper is ready right after a few weeks, few months or a year depending the status.

Now what do you think the Famous, Rich, Big Stars, Politicians, businessman in the Philippines are doing? They can file the annulment on their each Marriage right away in just a blink on their eye. Do you think it is fear to the Poor’s Community? Like Yen-Yen’s Parents? Hey please wake up do the right thing by building this Annulment open to everybody in the Philippines. Now you’re might saying it’s not the Rich and Famous fault that they can afford to this Annulment cases. Okay you got there right my friend! But what I’m saying is it should be the same process and be fair to the Poor too. Why is it not that easy for the Poor to undergo the Annulment like what the Rich and famous do!

My friend, if ever Annulment in the Philippines will be as easy as it is for the Rich and Famous, I bet there will be fewer illegitimate Children, less adultery cases, fewer Children like Yen-Yen experienced who suffered from the emotion of embarrassment, ashamedness, and received humiliation from her fellowman because of her Parents are illegally separated. The case of abortion and abandoned babies in the Philippines would be less because its parties wouldn’t need to hide the fruits of their love sin, and no more regrets which force them to do such unforgiving sin. No more the ashamedness anymore or no more this fearful feelings to their selves thinking that maybe the Wife or Husband found their secrets sin that they are having an relationship aside to their partners.

Again my friend, one thing that makes me laugh is when some of my co-Filipinos or some People said this. “I don’t want to get married in the Philippines because there is no Divorce unlike in

USA, Canada, Europe, Australia and some certain Countries that open for divorce.” And says that their just being practical on a worse case scenario. You know what? What is your Meaning this “ANNULMENT”? Isn’t it Annulment is a dictionary for separation of the marriage, a dictionary to make the Marriage null and void in a legal way, or in the other words “similar to DIVORCE”.  My friend please stop saying that there is no Divorce in the Philippines because you know what People who really understand the word between Annulment and Divorce are laughing hard at you. Divorced or Annulment and the Marriage is dissolved. Better you’ll spread the word and state that Annulment is hard to attain for those poor People in the Philippines because they hardly afford on it.

Again my point to this article is to push through the Annulment in the Philippines to be openly to everybody not just to the Big Star, Famous, Rich, Politicians, and Businessman but also most properly to the Poor Community, Poor Family, Poor People that hardly afford to pay the Lawyer, or hardly can afford to endure all the cost of their Annulment case.  In order for this Poor People to live their lives in a legal way without hesitation, uncomfortable, embarrassment emotions, and to avoid the horrible humiliation treatment from their neighborhood through the children that should not be included in the negative judgments because of the wrong doing of the each Parents.

By:Yen-Yen
Have a sexyful, bountiful, wonderful, and blissful day folks.:)

Why Some Marriages End Up in Divorce?



Two Souls Unite and End Up in a Church Wedding:)




Two Soul's Promised "Till Death do us Part":)



 We all recognize that Marriage starts from two persons, between Man and Woman. Two souls that unite and tie to charge their future to each other’s arms, and promise each other to take care, to be their companions, to be their partners, to be their best friends and most of all be their lawful husband and wife, and their witness is their faith to God. Because of the two united souls Marriage arose in the scenario of the relationship. You and I also knew the fact, that Marriage is not the end of hardship, troubles, pain and struggles. Indeed it is the continuation of every stage of the Marriage relationship. I grow-up with my Father away from us. He is working abroad and it made my Mom so hard from taking care of me and my 2 siblings. Though during those years I’m very young to feel the pain, but I knew the feelings of my Mom trying to respond to the responsibility of trying hard to make us grow up in a better way. Aside from being a Mom to us I know from the beginning that both of my parents feel the loneliness to each other because of being distance miles and miles away.

Wherever are you in this part of Globe, once you totally have Faith, Loyalty, and Truely Love to your Husband/Wife vice versa! then I do surely beleived that the Marriage will be  100% successful.

Some parties succeed being distance to each other, but on the other hand some also failed, like my Parents are. Being distance to each relationship is not only the reason why marriage end-up to Divorce, there is tons of reason why the relationship failed.

The reasons are the following:

Unfaithful to each other/Betrayal

In a relationship being Faithful is one of the best things we can offer back to our partners Love. It’s not fair to treat our Wife/Husband badly if all they do is to Love us. We all don’t deserve this unfaithfulness or crap. How can you go home, spending time with your family knowing that last night you just slept with someone else? I bet that would be annoying on your entire day with your Family. Unless if you don’t have this conscience feelings! Nobody’s deserve a betrayal either you or I.

Without Trust to each other

In any relationship from Friendship, to your Parents to Children’s vice versa and most especially to a Marriage "TRUST" is very crucial. Without this, every single of your time being with the Person close to your heart is nothing. Because instead of giving your 100% attention to your Man or Woman enjoying being together's company, surely it is uncomfortable on our position! Right my friend? I know that Trust is really hard to work out especially to those Folks who are betrayed many times by someone they thought they could trust and respect. But when time of needing them the most, they betrayed the family. We need to work out harder ourselves to Trust our Partner in order to feel our comfort zone in the future.

Lying to each other

Lying to each other is a key of doubt to a person’s perception which leads to a broken relationship. If our Partner lied to us, one thing crosses to our mind is the negative reason of the action. Some of us forced to lie into two types of reason “White Lie and the Black Lie”. In white Lie, most of the reason is because we wanted to protect our Love ones from pain that might be agony for them to accept. When they find out that there is some angled that were hiding for! Then that might be a reason for them to think a negative perception or output at the end. You know that our partners are very intelligent? They are not dumb like what we think, they remain to be silent, but believed me buddy they are smarter than we think. Their instinct are very high in terms of something, they smells something fishy right away. I say this for instance in my example as this really goes in real life.

A husband been fired from his company where he work, and his family is assuming that they are going to a European trip. Everything is ready from Hotel, to Air Ticket, to activities. But then the Husband is keeping his secret just to give his Family a joyful moment during their vacation. But then at the deepest sight of the Husband he knows that he has to push through more of his time to hunt another Job as soon as possible before his Family found it out. The Husband now is worried and he hardly enjoyed his moment though he laughs but he knows it’s full of pretensions. He needs a new job in order to sustain the responsibility to his family. His willing to accept the pain and troubles rather than his family feel this agony the same way he does.

In the above stated story. I know that the Husband didn’t do anything wrong on our case. But because of this white lies the Family would get hurt because they have the right to know everything inside the Family house, and wanted to help the family crisis.

Black lies are the symbol for me of a person showing disrespect to me. Black lies for me is also a symbol of betrayal. For me your black lies are unexceptional. I don’t need to poke any example because for me that’s all I believe it is unexceptional.

Drugs/Alcohol/Gambling

This can ruin your Brain, your mind, and most of all your Life, and your Family. If the Government caught you surely you'll end up your Life in the Prison.

Drink Moderately.

Not good if this well be your water every single of your day so please keep distance to this.



The Pictures I have in this Slot Machine was 2yrs ago when I visit Las Vegas USA. I play and I lost 20 USD$.

1st time I played  this slot Machine. I said I wanted to experienced and just for a minute I realise I lost 20 USD$ in just a blink of an eye. Don't let this Casino be your buddy for the rest of your life or else you shall loose everything you have specially the most important chapter of your life your "FAMILY".  

Drugs/alcohol/and Gambling is a very common reason why a Marriage end-up to a hurtful ending story. Because of this acts Marriage will slowly and slowly drowned the water. Fighting is always cross to the Husband and wife, drugs and alcoholic is the reason why the doer always feel Anger, aggressive, won’t accept any advices nor to listen any words of wisdom, and don’t want to follow what is right. And if Gambling also involved on it, definitely the Marriage become Miserable, the reason why the properties of your Family started to crush down to the toilet. Your partner starts to sell everything on your property, or started to borrow big amounts from anywhere just to sustain his/her drugs/alcohol and gambling addiction. Everything that you work hard for as a couple well goes slowly down, and most of all it will disappear, and all this happen because of your personal crooked act.

No time for each other/workaholic





In this image showing that the Man working hard even it is a Family day Sunday. No time for his Family. 








In a relationship we know that time is very crucial, for me my days won’t be complete without seeing my Husband. Sound weird and sounds annoying maybe but you can’t stop or change my perception about that. I understand that you’re a busy bee sweetheart, but bear in mind that everything you work hard for will be useless once the Jewel of your goal will disappear, and start to fade. Because you can’t even spend a few hours to your partner. Remember this that even God, took his day off when he build the Earth, Land, Animals, Trees, and living creatures. God stop to work and declared the Sunday to be the rest day, so maybe he wanted to rest, relax the entire day, and most of all to worship him by going to church.

Yes why not pull out your Sunday and put it to your Family. Why not start to drag your Family, kids and most of all your Husband/ wife to church. Give thanks to God about the successful weekeend you guys received from him. After church why not bring your family to a Lunch. It doesn’t matter if it is in a fine dining restaurant or just in a fast food chain, the important is you can talk your family what’s going on their week days, the important is you communicate them, or go for a picnic in the park, play with the kids Hug kiss your partner and please don’t forget the magic words I LOVE YOU.:) There are tons of stuffs to do, and there are many excuses too, but if we can manage our Time table from being a busy bee to a smooth bee to our family surely our family well be happy and content. Don’t you try to play the rule of being so distance to your partner because we know from the fact that there will be bad waiting for us in the next street. Though your just their and a second to call, but when you start to play the ball and thinking that your partner understand you because you’re working so hard for the family, so for you it is fine! Well my friend you are wrong! Because forgiving and understanding has an ending, and you don’t want this patience end to a BYE-BYE my love or shall I say I LOVE YOU GOODBYE so if I wear you start redoing your time table now before it’s too late.

Fighting because of the Money troubles
 

Ohhh goshhh fighting for money? I hate this really. But admit it or not Money is the evil temptation and the best enemy of marriage. We both know that Money is important in our living and that’s the fact! Without this $$$ we all know that we can’t support our family needs, our children can’t go to school. This are the reason, why we really need Money so bad, and this is our top priority in order to sustain the needs of our family financially. But my friend marked in mind at the end it also contributes the awful output on our side, or shall I say the opposite sight of what we wanted to be! When it comes to money everything just turned out screwed and turned the relationship down.

When money started to inter-acted our marriage, assume that this will bring the virus distruction to a relationship. If you and your partner are having trouble about money! please talk it slowly be calm, try to sort it out why you guys are in financial crisis? Why not start to list everything you guys spend for the month, then there definitely you guys find it why. Don’t start with the nasty exchanging words that causes us anger and unforgiving. This will end up a misunderstanding, and again BYE-BYE my Love.

The Love does not exist to both parties anymore.

Just emagine that this image is a symbol of Problem.

Again in a relationship to work! Standard procedure is to have two souls unite in order to attain Love.
My friend we know that Love can never be push by somebody just to be with that particular object. We can’t price Love most of all. Love is unconditional, I also believed that love can disappear but I know it has a reason why, we can’t push our partner to Love and stayed us forever, but we have tons of things to do to make sure the feelings won’t be banished. When you sort out that your Love already fade to your Partner! I think first thing we should do is to undergo for Counseling, talk to Priest. I believed that Counseling can help overcome the humped, to open the confusing thoughts of ours and talk everything the reason why. We need to work hard our flame in order to succeed our Marriage. As I said above Love need two souls in order to tied up and to work the fire of each Marriage Flame. As I do believed too it takes “Give and Take” plus please don’t be a leader in your Marriage because I know that our existence comes from the very root of God’s Love who created everything like you and I. Without God’s Presence in our relationship, whatever we do Love our Marriage it is still not the situation we wanted to be because we are lucky the wall which is God’s presence. And yes Marriage might never become perfect, but yes it could! Once we are keeping an eye on things that delivered joy and contentment. In order to reach the “Till Death do us Part” we should let God guide, showed the right path on our marriage, and let him to be the leader of our marriage and most of all God should be the center in whatever we goes in life.

For you my readers to let you know I am happily married going 6 years together 5years married. So far my marriage is perfect according to my own perception and eye sight. And I can’t poke out any situation that my husband and I been to a bad situation that lead us to think about undergoing to Divorce and I’ll surely that would never be happen in the future. I am in my man’s arms right now, which is never the reason for a Bad marriage. And vice versa for that for me I give totally respect loyalty and Love to my husband. And this happen because of God’s Blessing to my marriage. I give my vows to my Man with my only one witness my faith to God and as long as we have this strong faith I can assure that the fire I have right now will never be banished whatever obstacle we are going through in the future.

BY: Yen-Yen

Have a sexyful, bountiful, wonderful, and blissful day folks.:)